Friday, 13 January 2017

Why You Should Be Best Friends With Your Village People. (SHARE THIS)

You would never understand the importance of familiarizing with your village people (Igbo) until you want to get married. By familiarizing I mean not necessarily giving them fake smiles and all, but really doing all you are expected to do and knowing what there is to know as per "Tradition". I Once attended a traditional marriage ceremony somewhere in Anambra State Nigeria.

 The event was supposed to start by two o'clock but was delayed because the elders and "Umunna" kept arguing for hours on end.
The bone of contention? They do not know the bride, she's never been involved in any local activity, her name is not in the village church women's list and so and and so forth. Initially I thought it was a joke. I mean, how can one possibly travel all the way to the village to attend occasional meetings all in the name of playing safe in preparation for future marriage .

This act is not only extended to girls only oo.. men too have their fair share of clan involvement. It's even worse on them.They get questions like "O-na abiakwa ulo?" (Does he come home at all). Whenever a young man comes home from th city, he is expected to visit his uncles and their friends with bottles of spinach and big round kola-nuts.. You village people expect you to:

 1. Adhere To Social Rules: Whenever there is a function that requires your presence, they expect you to honor the invitation and not run away from home.

 2. Get to know a few people in your clan so that Oso chuba dinkpa(when a man gets into trouble), they would know how to help you.

 3. They Expect You To Know how to recognize taboos and prevent them.

 Taboos like:

 i. iii. Suicide or killing of oneself: Killing oneself or committing suicide is a taboo in Igboland, and so much frowned upon by both man and gods that the victim of suicide must never be buried within the community. His body is cursed and must never be buried in the land, but in the Forbidden Forest or outside the town to prevent such evils from befalling others in the community. 

 ii. A woman blessing the kolanut: Kolanut is considered a sacred nut in Igboland and in Delta State, and must never be broken or shared by a woman. A kolanut must only be broken, blessed, and shared by a man because “he that giveth kola, giveth life,” but never by a woman because it is a life-giving nut of the gods. 

 iii. Committing incest: It is a taboo to have sexual relations with one’s blood relations or with sisters from the same parents. This is frowned upon by everyone in the community and must never be attempted by anyone or blindness, deafness, poverty or death might result as consequences according to the elders of the land. 

 iv. Using the left hand: Using the left hand to do anything is forbidden in Igboland and strictly prohibited – regardless of the fact that the individual may be left-handed. A left-handed individual is trained or oriented to learn the use of the right hand in eating, writing, giving and accepting things. Elders deeply frown on giving or taking things with the left hand because it is considered most disrespectful and unfortunate. 

 v. Unblessed marriage union: It is forbidden for a woman to live with a man without the proper marriage rites or without the due approval and approval of their parents. A respectable man is expected to pay the dowry or bride-price of his wife before or shortly after starting to live together, or the woman will lose respect in the community and may face problems of poverty, retrogression, sickness and death among others. 

 vi. Marrying an Osu: An Osu is an outcast within the caste system, and marrying one is considered a taboo that must never be done. An Osu or outcast is considered the property of the gods or a slave and descendant of slaves and must never be offered or taken for marriage. Free-born men and women are expected to investigate the origins and social class of an individual to be certain he/she is not an Osu before contracting marriage 

. vii. Causing the fall of an elder: Causing an elder to fall from his seat or drop from his feet is considered a taboo, and the offender must kill a goat for ritual or he may never grow to the present age of the age. A goat or any other prescribed item must be provided to cleanse the land and atone for the offender. Regardless of the situation, a youth or younger individual must never cause the fall of an elder.

So you see, having an indepth knowledge of your tradition, no matter your culture is somewhat important. It'll help you get to know more about your traditions, and also know how to apply certain rules to get results. Igbo proverbs for instance, have been used in moral development and has in one way or the other, had their effects.

Become best friends with your village people today!!!

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